Continuing on with this love and vulnerability (SHARING) stuff, I came across this video:
“People who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they are worthy of love and belonging.” [The whole-hearted people] make connections “as a result of authenticity… they were willing to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were.”
How often in life has our entire psyche gone complete askew? Remember that time you stuffed down who you wanted to be to instead be who you thought society (mom, dad, your spouse, your tribe) wanted you to be? What about the time you learned you needed to undo all of that… How can we possibly make honest connections with each other if we are fronting who we are, even fronting to ourselves?
“Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and struggle for worthiness, but it is also the birthplace of joy and belonging and love.”
If we try to avoid the hurt, pain, sucky and murky parts of our lives then we are avoiding vulnerability and therefore cutting off love.
Friends, yes, we are called to guard our hearts. We are called to take notice of the folks who will smash it into bits and judge you behind your back. We are called to discern whom we can trust with our fragile hearts. But we ARE NOT called to stop the love flow from out of our hearts. If we are to experience God here on earth, we have to open ourselves up to this. We HAVE TO be vulnerable and share our spirit with others and then they will share theirs with us (we will see God). We will experience compassion and mercy and love and gratitude flowing in both directions.
I wish I could take all of my loves… all of the people in my life that I have shared genuine and true love with (and have received it back) and give this feeling a word. To take a step back and realize those moments where people have been mighty vulnerable with me about things from their past or present, and for me to talk with them about it and give them my love regardless… and for them to bear so much of my own vulnerability too and me receive the love back… I can’t put words to that. It’s love embodied.
You darn well cannot experience this if you aren’t vulnerable, and you can’t be vulnerable if you aren’t honest about your shame and fear and heart struggles.
Please take a few moments out of your day to listen to this profound talk.